Break Through Self-Doubt and Fear

Self-doubt and fear interfere with our ability to achieve or set goals. Self-doubt and fear are the voices in our head telling us, “You’ll never succeed, so why try?” and “who do you think you are?” Self-doubt and fear are also what make us listen to those voices and decide to give up before we get started.

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Self-doubt and fear interfere with our ability to achieve or set goals. Self-doubt and fear are the voices in our head telling us, “You’ll never succeed, so why try?” and “who do you think you are?” Self-doubt and fear are also what make us listen to those voices and decide to give up before we get started. While many people experience self-doubt and fear at some point in their lives, they take action anyway. Others remain stuck, or are confident in only one area of their life, such as work. They are too afraid to try new things like going back to school, entering new relationships or learning new skills. When we let self-doubt and fear rule our lives, we miss opportunities. We predict and believe that nothing good will happen to us, so we don’t try anything new, and refuse to take even low-level risks. This leads us to discount people or situations that could help us reach our goals. While self doubt and fear can come in different forms and from different sources, we can learn to break through them.

The vicious cycle of self-doubt and fear

I know what it’s like to live with self-doubt and fear. For years my life was ruled by these feelings. I grew up in a lower income family in the Bronx, New York. I heard over and over again that people like us could never really be successful. As early as kindergarten my teacher told my mother I was slow and not to expect too much from me. I was put in the slow-learners class. In reality, I was very smart but bored. My next teacher recognized this and moved me from the slow-learners class to the the advanced class. But I still had my voices telling me: “You’ll never make it. You’ll never be popular”. I felt I wasn’t as good as other people because I didn’t have the money and nice clothes that some of the other girls had. I was also shy and not in the popular crowd. I internalized outside messages and became a troublemaker. My parents viewed my education as a pathway for becoming a teacher, social worker or civil servant. They limited my vision and left me believing that I didn’t have a choice in what I wanted for my future. I couldn’t understand how people became successful at something. But others saw potential in me. I was encouraged to study journalism and was placed in a special writing program. It could have been an incredible opportunity. Instead, I listened to my fears that I’d never make it, so I left the program and pretended that I didn’t care. Later, I got accepted to the High School of Performing Arts in New York. Acting had always been my dream, despite the fact that people said my “blue collar” Bronx accent would keep me from success. My parents loved me but didn’t know how to give me support. They told me it was good to go to Performing Arts but that being an actor was out of reach for me. Rather than focus on the fact that I had gotten accepted to this wonderful school, I focused on the negative. My perception was that everyone else was wealthier, more experienced and more talented than me. I told myself: “You’re not as good as everyone else. If you try and don’t make it, you’ll look like a fool. But if you don’t try, you can still be cool.” I pretended that I didn’t really want to act. I didn’t try, and I sabotaged myself. I felt like I had no one to talk to about my ambition. Eventually, I gave up trying and left. I told everyone, including myself, that it didn’t matter. But the truth is, I had been afraid to try. I spent the next two years in another high school, where I used drugs daily and became an addict. I still managed to do well on tests and graduated from high school at age 16. None of that meant anything to me, because by that time I had such low self-esteem, I thought if I could do it, it must be easy. I continued to feel that I was never good enough. My life was defined by what other people thought of me. I had other opportunities. I was approached on the street by a magazine photographer and became a model at one of the top agencies in the world. I still carried my negative messages and told myself I couldn’t do it. I still felt that I was unattractive and couldn’t conceive of success. I gave up and dropped out. I just didn’t believe in my ability to accomplish anything. I tried moving to Eugene, Oregon because I blamed my problems on where I lived and the people in my life. In one year I managed to gain over 90 pounds and get addicted to coffee, cigarettes and other substances. I blamed everyone else for my lack of money, healthy relationships and happiness. I lived in constant fear but was afraid to admit it. My self-destruction finally resulted in a breakdown of my physical health and I had to be hospitalized and undergo major surgery. Doctors told me what I already knew: I had to make a major change. It was time to look at my past and my present and to decide what I wanted for my future. If I didn’t break through negative thoughts I would always stay where I was.

Making positive changes

I had to learn to change my attitude about myself. I read about and talked to people who had broken through their self-doubts and taken control of their lives. I got support from others and consciously began turning my destructive self-talk into constructive self-talk. I knew that if I took certain actions, my mind and emotions would follow. I let go of people who negatively influenced my life. I told myself that I was important, and began to plan and achieve my goals. I learned to have faith in my ability. I quit smoking, gave up coffee, and began exercising and eating well. The people I spent time with were also making positive changes in their lives. My life began to improve. I no longer saw myself as a victim. I learned to let go of blame and started taking small risks. I stopped comparing myself to other people and began to open up to new opportunities. Today I have a successful speaking and consulting business. I have close friends, and a wonderful son. Learning from my life and others, I’m raising him to believe in himself, understand his feelings, and not be afraid of his fears. I travel throughout the country talking to corporations, associations and other organizations. If you need help overcoming feelings of self-doubt and fear, please read these ten techniques and processes that have helped me get to this place in my life.

1. Make a list of your fears. Only by admitting that they exist can you seek solutions.
2. Write down how these fears affect your life.
3. Become aware of the voices in your head and write down those negative messages.
4. Start building a support system of friends and eliminate people from your life who foster feelings of negativity.
5. Join a support group of people who have similar issues.
6. Change each negative message to one that is affirming and constructive.
7. Read books that help you feel better about yourself.
8. Be aware of your past, and be willing to let go of it.
9. List your goals and the actions you need to achieve them.
10. Take one of those actions every day.

Each time you do something that brings you closer to achieving your goals you will feel better about yourself. When fears and self-doubts come back, and they still do, I break through them by using the tools and skills I’ve learned and now teach. They work.

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Theatre, Art Loving People and Limo Service in Denver

The quality of services, punctuality, and luxurious style of limo service makes it an ideal combination for the leisure travel.

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Theatres and art galleries are very powerful attraction in the Denver cityfor the locals as well as for the outsiders. Another attraction is the luxurious limo service of this city with a wide range of variety which suits all types of travellers. Did you ever experience the combination of the two attractions? Not yet? Then we will say that you have not enjoyed a big deal of entertaining up till now. Denver offers you a chance to know the true meanings of enjoyment in a luxurious style.

Why to Choose Limo?

Travelling is most of the time panicking for a majority of people. Sometimes it spoils even your celebrations and picnics. By hiring limo service, you don’t have to sacrifice your comforts and safety. Limo service knows how to make the travellers gratified and how to make the journey memorable. The quality of services, punctuality, and luxurious style of limo service makes it an ideal combination for the leisure travel.

A comfortable and jazzy and flashy interior of the vehicles excites you moods to have more fun and adds enjoyment to the moments. Moreover, if you are travelling in a limo, you don’t have to drive your vehicle. You enjoy your leisure trip in stress free state and at the end you are fresh to enjoy the theatre or any art exhibition. On the way back to your home, you are free again to recall the pleasant memories of the theatre, the amusing script and other beautiful instances you happen to see in the theatre. If you opt to use private transport, the travelling is going to be full of hassles and disturbances. You have to think and care about the fuelling, driving, managing your friends group and other such turbulences. At long last, when you reach the theatre, you are exhausted enough to not enjoy properly. So, it is most recommended to hire the limo service if you decide to go to theatre with friends.

Theatre Scene in Denver

Denver is known as the destination for the art loving people. Here you come across a lot of theatres, at centres, live performance venues, and art galleries. Many people, even from outside Denver, come here to witness the art exhibitions. The refined artistic taste of Denver invites many people each month to have a chance to enjoy the genuine art and fun. Two most popular theatres in Denver are The Denver Centre for the Performing Arts (TDCPA) and Denver Performing Arts Complex (DPAC). TDCPA showcases all kinds of arts. It invites lacs of people each year to see the performances of various theatre groups. DPAC lets the people enjoy all kinds of performing arts like Colorado Ballet, Opera Colorado and others. Apart from these two, there are many other theatres here which offer you experience the best of your times. Some popular names include Paramount Theatre, Avenue Theatre, and Ogden Theatre. To get most of your time at these theatres, you need to hire a top class limo service.

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Kids Dance Classes – Things You Need to Know

Do you consider taking your child to dance classes? You heard that dancing is beneficial to your child. Especially because they will move around, instead of just sitting in front of the television or their tablets.

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However, there are a couple of things that you as the parent needs to know about kid’s dance classes. Especially if this is the first time that you are taking a child to a dance class. Some of these dance classes are extreme and performing arts teachers don’t even allow their parents to watch. These are some of the things you should consider when you are taking your child to a dance class for the first time.

Your child needs to have a love for dance

This is essential. Your child needs to have a love or passion for dance. You can’t even consider taking her to a dance class if she never has shown interest in dancing before.

Dance classes are hard work, and if they don’t like it, these classes will be torture for them. And, really unnecessary for them. If your child loves to dance, this will be a great opportunity. However, if your child doesn’t like dancing or anything that has to do with dancing, then you should not make him do anything he doesn’t want to do.

There are different types of dances your child can learn

It is the one great thing about dance lessons Sydney for children. There are different types of dances that your child can learn. So, he or she will find the type of dance that she likes the most.

With the dance classes, they will normally start with different types of lessons. This is so that they can see what type of lesson they would like to continue with. Some are continuing with all the dances, while others are just choosing a couple of them to learn.

Different dance schools have different reputations

One thing to know is that there are different dance schools with different reputations. Meaning that you need to make sure that you are enrolling your child in a dance school with a good reputation.

There are dance schools where the parents aren’t allowed to watch. Even if this might sound like a good idea, we don’t think that it really is. If you can’t walk in there at any given time, how are you going to know that your child is safe and happy? You need to choose a school where you can watch and where you as a parent is welcome at any time. You can also do research to find a school that has good reviews and recommendations.

With dance, they learn to be responsible and hardworking

Why should you consider letting your child take dance classes? Because this is teaching them to be responsible and to be hard working. And, that you are going to get results if you are working for it.

They will also be fit and healthy because they will not sit in front of the television or tablets all the time. This is a good thing to let them learn how to dance at a dance class. It doesn’t matter if they are boys or girls.

These are different things that you need to know about taking your child to dance lessons at a dance school Sydney. Mostly this is a really good thing for your child. If they like dancing and want to learn more. But you need to make sure that you are taking them to the right full time performing arts school where they are getting a good experience and not take them to a place where they are losing all their love for dancing.